Friends
In my break from blogging I had a real wake up to who my friends are. Now honestly I would have never guessed who my real friends. One man that I did know was Jimmy from Rural Black Hole. Jimmy and me don’t get to hang out as much as you would think good friends would. But we chat on face book whenever we happen to be on, or we call or text once and a while. Whenever our paths do cross we always make the best out of it. So here is a lil shout out to you Jimmy. Now my band I thought of as friends, but not super great ones. But I realized that we are because we have to trust each other that we don’t make a fool out of them on stage. I will say I really do like the guys in the band they are all like my older brothers because they give me crap (cause I am the youngest) but at the same time they watch out for me. Another group that has recently became some of my better friends have been several coworkers of mine. They invited me out to the movies one night and then took me out for my 21st. And since then we have got to hang out more. Along with several classmates and one professor that have become some of my close friends and mentors.
Now I will give you a little rundown of the people I used to hang out with. The first one is a girl that I met through my freshman girlfriend (now ex). I actually got her a job as a trainer and we ended up spending a lot of time together which I thought made us good friends. Now honestly I really just wanted to date her is why I hung around and let her use me. She would give me enough of the carrot to lead me on some more, until recently I switched to tomatoes. Just to clarify this girl and me have never done anything physical as the statement before seems to allude to. Now I thought I was her best friend were actually I was the guy that would be the DD and I was always there when she called to do something. Now don’t settle for being a back up friend because eventually they will just stop calling.
The second friend that I left was the two faced kind. This is actually one of my ex’s and if you think this is just me getting back at her its not. But we met through our grandparents and she was just the nicest girl you could imagine. I will say that I did use her as a back up friend sometimes but I actually saw her as one of my best friends. Then we dated and I saw a whole different side of her that I hadn’t seen before. She was super messy, procrastinated everything, and is stuck in the past. By that I mean she talks about missing high school but then still bitches about kids in her class even though she hasn’t seen them in years. Lets be frank here high school was fun and there are aspects I miss but I like college so much more I wouldn’t go back. I have forgotten about the grudges in high school and have given them up. Anyway after we broke up she was always running to daddy about every little thing. Now I will talk more about this on my blog post on dating.
Now one thing that I did after I realized how bad of friends I really had, I went through facebook and deleted friends of friends, people who I don’t talk to, and people I really don’t give a rats ass about.
This may seem like kind of a mean way to sort through my friends. But here is my thinking when I had 700 friends there could 100 people on at certain times. That means trying to find certain people you want to talk to is hard. Where as with my 200 some friends now they all are people that I can talk to and when they are online its way easier to find them on the list. People have criticized because it is a “networking” site but the people that I deleted really arent the kind of people I want to be associated with. More and more these days potential employers are getting on Facebook and checking into potential employees. Do you really want them seeing your friend who posts about doing pot all the time, or the buddy with pics up from Spring Break where you are hung over a toilet puking your brains out. Really take a look at who your friends are and if they are really that good of a friend to you. If you are unsure just do like Stalin and have them killed. Just kidding there been reading a book on Stalin and that just popped into my head as an analogy.
